Hey, Millennials! We are the next generation making it happen...and what do we want? We all want to be successful.
Success is this tangible, intangible thing we all want to achieve at some point in our lives. No matter what success means to you, as millennials we are pretty ambitious and driven people.
We become successful through social media and blogging or real estate and entrepreneurship, no matter how we get there, we find a way to make it happen.
That is what inspires me about this generation. There is no longer a written formula for success:
"work 'x' amount of years at a company, start at the bottom and work your way up, otherwise known as the pyramid method. "
Bleh! We scratched that and created our own formulas. Not saying people don’t achieve success this way anymore, but it’s not the only way.
On our journey to success, there are a few things we should be aware of and/or avoid to reach our goals and retain success.
10 Things Millennials Should Avoid To Be Successful
1. DON’T FEEL ENTITLED
We have to remember that no matter how talented and hard we work the world does not owe us anything. The best attitude to have is humility and to always be grateful for your blessings
Once success starts to come and you begin to get multiple opportunities, avoid the “I’m the best and most deserving attitude” because once people sense that they won’t want to work with you.
I believe we should think highly of ourselves and acknowledge our hard work, but once you get to certain level everyone is working hard. No matter how successful you are, it is so important to maintain humility and keep in mind there is always more to grow.
2. DON’T RESENT OTHERS SUCCESS
From her book, one of Amy Morin’s 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do is “They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success.” This is crucial because when that little green envious monster sits on your shoulder it can potentially destroy relationships, your success, and your well being.
Resentment and envy are detrimental emotions that will not do you any good.
Do you resent that your childhood friend is doing better than you because she got her dream job or your friend from school got the job you wanted and you didn’t? Resenting them isn’t going to get you the job or help you get your job. It’s only going to make you angry and irrational.
Instead of envying someone else’s success we should embrace it. What’s meant for them might not be meant for you right now and that’s okay. Or sometimes we envy people because of what we see on the surface, but we have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.
When you start to feel resentment, evaluate what is going well in your life and what you can improve on.
Lock that little green monster in a box and throw away the key because he can’t help you.
3. DON’T FEAR FAILURE/ GIVE UP
“Successful people don’t fear failure, but understand that it’s necessary to learn and grow from” -Robert Kiyosaki
Let me name a few people you might know:
Do any of those names ring a bell? (If not, take a few moments to look up their story). That is just a hand full of names because the list could go on and on. You might look at those names now, and think how can I even begin to compare to those people, but you can!
They all started from the bottom, failed miserably, but because they did not give up they managed to make something of themselves. We cannot give up the first time we fail because it is a part of the process.
The problem with our generation is that we only glorify our successes on social media and we leave out the process and the struggle. Young people get discouraged because the only thing they see online is the beautiful, polished end product, but they don’t see the hard work it took to get there.
We almost have to embrace failure because it’s how we learn. We learn what to do and what not to do, and the biggest failure isn’t failing but it’s not learning from it.
4. DON’T CONTINUOUSLY REPEAT THE SAME MISTAKES
That takes me into this point, don’t keep making the same mistakes. Failure is important as a stepping stone in our learning, but you can’t keep making the same mistakes that caused you to fail in the first place.
Failure can be costly, financially and emotionally, so we want to learn from our mistakes so we don’t repeatedly find ourselves in the same place.
If something continuously doesn’t work out, then take a step back and reevaluate what is working and what is not. Chances are you can improve upon something or make a change that will help you not make the same mistake again. Instead of giving up, look at it from a different angle.
5. DON’T PLAY IT SAFE
Amy Morin talks about the importance of taking “calculated risks.” Most successful entrepreneurs have taken at least one if not multiple calculated risks in their careers to get them to where they are now.
Risks are scary and dangerous if you only make them impulsively. If you immediately make a large investment without evaluating how it will help you and how long it will take you to pay it back, then you will find yourself in debt.
Instead, make a pros and cons list and weigh the benefits of this risk versus the consequences of it. You can make an educated decision as to whether the risk will better your career or endanger it.
Nonetheless, don’t play it safe! Playing it safe gets you the mediocre career and a life of “what ifs.” At the end of the road, we want to have the least amount of regrets as possible. Of course, you cannot avoid all of them, but some we have control over.
6. DON’T BE LAZY
This one is probably the most obvious and self-explanatory because being lazy will get nowhere.
Unless you are born into money or marry into money, you have to earn it for yourself. You want to work hard for your success because you know you earned it and you understand the value of it. If you don’t work for it, then you might not be able to retain it because you won’t know how to work hard.
Working hard and self-motivation are some of the most admirable qualities someone can have. Once you get older, potential and mere talent are no longer enough to get you by. But if you mix hard work and talent, you’ll be unstoppable!
I’ll even push the envelope more and say, clearly you can’t be lazy but you also can’t be mediocre. You have to go above and beyond to get to the level of success of people like Bill Gates and Oprah Winfrey.
They’re not basic in any shape or form, and when they were working up the latter they worked 200% when others were satisfied with 98%.
7. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
You can’t compare your life to what someone posts on Instagram. We always think someone has it better until we get to see what’s below the surface. When you constantly compare yourself to other people, you never fully embrace what you have and that’s dangerous.
You’ll never be happy with what you have if you’re always comparing yourself. It’s okay to have some healthy competition if it motivates you to work harder or get more disciplined, but we have to realize that someone else’s life may not be what is meant for us.
Remember, “The grass is not always greener on the other side.”
8. DON’T DENY YOUR INNER POWER
Think about this..why do you want to be successful?
What’s driving you? Most likely if you’re not coming from riches, something is driving you to make a change, break barriers, and become successful.
Sometimes when we are having tough times or encounter obstacles we begin to doubt ourselves and that little spark inside of us begins to dim.
I say.. absolutely not! Don’t ever let yourself sink too much into that place and deny that you deserve greatness.
When you think you’ve hit rock bottom or you can’t physically go anymore, tap into your inner power and it will reassure you that there is more to give.
You can do it. And you will do it! You are so much stronger than you think.
9. DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF
Are you moping around because you didn’t get that job you wanted or you haven’t been promoted yet?
Keyword…yet! The worst reaction is to feel sorry for yourself and allow your work ethic to deteriorate.
If you didn’t get something you want, hustle harder than ever. Make them see you and recognize that you deserve to be in that position.
It’s okay to be disappointed, but do not allow it to last for longer than a couple of days. Shake it off and reevaluate how you can make things better. It might be cheesy, but when there’s a will there is a way.
10. DON’T EXPECT INSTANT SUCCESS
Nothing comes overnight; most people have to work long and hard for their success.
The process makes it worth it because you appreciate success when it comes and you can retain it when you have it.
Don’t rush your success because people on social media are already there, or don’t compare yourself to people who had a viral video and became overnight sensations. Don’t allow them to make you feel like you’re behind or you need to be showing out on the Gram because you don’t.
Learn to appreciate the process, all the highs, and lows, and trust me when success comes it will feel great.
So, millennials as we write our own paths to success, remember don’t stand in your own way!
Do any of these 10 points resonate with you? Comment below!