Being Laid Off? Do These 3 Things to Get Another Job

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Yesterday, I asked the Gems in my Facebook group to share what challenge they were facing this week that needed prayer and positivity. One gem shared that she’s being laid off. I briefly gave her some encouragement but felt compelled to dedicate a post with some practical tips that will benefit her and other gems.

First, it sucks. I get it. I’ve been laid off too (anyone remember that little economic meltdown circa 2008…yeah I was a casualty of that). You’re going to feel like shit and it’s normal. Let the wave of that feeling come and go. But don’t let it stay. Your energy must stay positive because potential employers can sense desperation and just like with dating, no one want the desperate person.

1.  Rebuild Your Confidence

The first thing you need to do is rebuild your confidence and soothe your ego. Whether it’s a hobby or sport, make the time to do the things you’re already great at. Every small win will boost your self confidence and energy.

You will need good energy that’s eager yet somewhat detached from the results. Again, much like dating.

2.  Talk to Your Current HR

Before you leave, talk to your current company about whether they provide job search services.  It may sound weird but depending on your industry and company, they may help you with transitioning to another job. HR people tend to talk to each other and have a sense of what opportunities are out there. Same goes for the company recruiter.

Also, ask if they’ll give you a “grace period” where you can keep them listed as a current employer, while you look for another job. I know someone who was able to keep their employee profile on the company website for 3 months after being laid off. The benefit is that potential employers will view you as being currently employed. Why does this matter? Because it’s ironically easier to get a job when you already have a job.


3.  Network. Network. Network.

Know what’s better than having a great resume? Having a referral.

People value familiarity. A resume is cold and unfamiliar. Sure, a cold application can get you a job, but if you “warm” up your resume first, you’ll get better results.

You warm up your resume by having someone at the company either forward your resume to HR, or send an email asking if they got your resume. Now, you may not know someone at the company but guess what? Everyone has a friend. You can easily figure out if one of your contacts, knows someone at the company.

LinkedIn has made finding shared connections so easy. Can you imagine trying to figure this out pre-LinkedIn? Trust me, it was time consuming. So use that feature on LinkedIn.

Another great way to network is to invite people to coffee/lunch and tell them you want career advice. People love feeling that their opinion, ideas, and advice matter. If they can’t meet in person, then ask for a brief 15 minutes phone call.

The goal here is not to ask for a job, that’s too much pressure on them. The goal is making a connection and having them feel invested in your success (after all, you went to them for their sage advice, so clearly you recognize their potential ability to add value to your life). At the end of the meeting, ask them to refer you to one person they think might be helpful. Then follow up with the person and rinse and repeat the process.

Networking is by far the most powerful method when job hunting (I’ll do another post on other networking strategies). Many jobs get filled before they’re even posted publicly because of word of mouth. Shocking right? Even with the digital takeover, people still value interpersonal connections.

Don’t let this setback bring you down. There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind. That goes for relationships and careers. Remember who you are: You are a gem. You are rare. You are beautiful. Now go shine.

Don’t Make These 4 Mistakes When Growing Your Personal Brand

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Why Should You Grow Your Personal Brand?

Personal branding is not something that applies to just athletes, celebrities or entrepreneurs.

Personal branding applies to everyone, especially if you have aspirations and goals in your life and professional career.

The way people perceive you matters more than you might think. Moreover, how you grow your brand will be a deciding factor in where you will be later in your life.

The last thing you want to do is make a costly mistake that can change your future.

Honestly, your brand is probably one of the most important things you should be concerned with in your life. It is even more important than your business (if you have one) or your career. Those things can always change or be taken away. The core meaning of who you are and what you’re about will never change. You will always be “you” and one mistake or negative aspect can turn people off of you.

This is why your brand is so important and why you have to go about it the right way from the beginning.

This is all the reason why you shouldn’t post things online that can affect your image or change the way people see you.

These things matter more than ever now because once anything is on the internet, it will be around forever. You can’t erase inappropriate pictures or tweets that you said years ago. They will literally stay with you for the rest of your life.

The mistakes you make will no longer go away as they could have 20 or 30 years ago. Everything is out there for people to see. Below I’ve listed 4 major mistakes that many people make when growing their personal brand. 

Don’t let this be you too.


4 Mistakes When Growing Your Personal Brand

  1. Being Inauthentic- Always, always, always be true to yourself and what you stand for. Building a brand is already hard, but lying and being inauthentic is much harder. When you have to put up a front and show people something that you aren’t time and time again, it just gets harder to keep up with those lies. Instead, focus on being yourself regardless of who likes you for it. Building your personal brand on lies and inauthenticity will be exposed over time and eventually, people won’t respect you or your brand. You’ll just end up portraying yourself as a dishonest person. Take the time to analyze your values, your interests, and your message. Understand yourself as best as you can and show people the real you. You’ll attract the people that you want to attract and the people who you don’t attract, won’t matter anyway.
  2. Make It All About You– Personal branding is about you, but at the same time it really isn’t. It is more about the people who you give back to and the message that you’re sending to others. It’s about providing value and helping people recognize you as someone they should go to, look up to or inspire to be like one day. Don’t be the person who just talks about yourself and what you’ve accomplished all of the time. Give as much value as you can, serve people and educate others on things that you think you might be able to help them with.
  3. Post Inconsistently- The foundation for building a brand is content. Whether is written, visual or audio you have to regularly post content on a topic or subject that you care about. Show others that you have some knowledge and expertise on a particular matter. You can show people what your life is like and give them an insiders view, but make it of value as I stated in the last point. Consistent posting is the only way to build trust and to build a brand that people love and respect. If they don’t see you consistently, then how can you expect them to know you or even want to get to know you.
  4. Give Up Too Early- Branding takes time as does anything that is worthwhile. If you aren’t immediately seeing results in your goals, branding-related or not, don’t panic and ditch the plan. Stay with it and give it time. Especially with branding. It takes time for people to come to you and see you as someone they want to follow and aspire to be like. This is probably the most important mistake that you don’t want to make. Too many people stop growing their brand over time because they haven’t received the rewards from it. Keep moving and forward and make small steps every day. It’s similar to working out to stay in shape. Remember that it is much easier to continue going than it is to stop and try to pick it up again.

Slow & Steady Always Wins Long-Term

The last thing you have to keep in mind is to remember to not go for the home-run and try to create that one post, picture or piece of content that will explode your personal brand in one day or night.

Brands that take-off like that rarely happen and if they do, most of the time they don’t sustain themselves for a long period of time.

Instead, slowly build your brand over time and show people that this is the real you online and offline.

It is much easier said than done, but also let yourself become vulnerable and transparent. People respect that and it helps you become more relatable to others who might be experiencing some of the same things or problems as you once did.

The whole purpose of building your brand should be to create more opportunities for yourself, attract new relationships and differentiate yourself in the world.

By avoiding the 4 mistakes above, you’ll already be on the right track to accomplishing those things.

10 Reasons Why You Should Use Black Owned Business Coupons

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If you are anything like me, you are conservative with your coins. If it isn’t on sale, I am not buying it. Word. I like my money. I work hard for it. Parting with it is not sweet sorrow; it’s foolish to give it up if I don’t have to. If I don’t have a coupon I received in the mail or a solicitation I was emailed, I keep my money to myself. I am always looking for clearance items, “the plug”, a promotion, or a sale. 

Now picture this:

You realize the seasons are changing and inclement weather is likely to be in your near future. You have been on the road with your besties all summer and the tread on your tires is worn. You start pricing tires and those things ain’t cheap. You find four tires that are in your budget, schedule an appointment to have new tires put on your ride. Knowing the dent this going to put in your wallet, you pay for them but at the register, you are told one of your tires is free – no charge, taking roughly 25% off your bill. Are you going to tell the mechanic, “No, no thank you. I’ll pay for that tire.” I bet you wouldn’t.

Welp, that’s exactly how coupons work! They can be lifesavers when you have an unexpected bill or integral tools to help you build wealth and simply save money.

This is the part where I tell you being consumer conscious is not the same is expecting Black owned businesses to give you “the hook up”.

Most companies allocate a part of their budget to attract customers to their business, products, and services. Some of the money is then distributed to customers in the form of money-saving coupons. If you are ignoring sponsored posts on social media or deleting emails from your favorite businesses, you are throwing away discounts! Who would do that? Not you!

This is the part where I tell you that couponing is worth it! Here are 10 Reasons Why You Should Use Black Owned Business Coupons:

1. Coupons are in abundance.

Discounts from Black Owned Businesses are everywhere! But if you are skeptical, you must also be blind. If you are on any social media platform and you make it priority to follow businesses that offer products you use regularly, there is no way you can miss them.

 Example promotions

More so, if you are a faithful Minority Report featuring Black Owned Businesses subscriber, than you are fully aware of the Ultimate Black Love Gift Guide. I teamed up with 70 businesses to deliver to you a coupon book exclusively from Black Businesses. No advertisements. No fillers. Just savings.

A new edition is released every February 13 - Black Love Day. I met with Ayo Handy-Kendi, founder of the African American Holiday Association and creator of Black Love Day. You can watch our dialog in this YouTube video. She gave me her blessing and with it, I offer you coupons that are valid for an entire year. That’s right. The current black owned coupon book does not expire until February 12, 2018. Download your copy today!

 2. Couponers are smart people

Couponers are meticulous. They plan ahead and are intentional about how much money they want to save. Couponers recognize the money they save can be invested in other things.

3. Coupons save money on must-have items.

That pair of shoes you have been eyeing may never go on sales but trust me, you favorite retailer at one point in time will offer a coupon. Patience is a virtue that will get you want you want and get it for you on the low.

4. Coupons help you try new products.

The goal of Minority Report featuring Black Owned Businesses is to introduce you to businesses, products and services that you may have otherwise never have heard of. The Youtube channel is a playlist of interview after interview where I have sat down with entrepreneurs worthy of your support. Getting to know the people and families behind the brands is how you know your purchase is making an impact on real lives and significantly helping the Black community.

To put it simple, coupon + Black Owned Business = a chance to try something new without spending a lot of money. Minority Report is here to help you discover and try new products or services at a discounted price.


5. Some coupons can get you free goods!

The only thing better than a discount is a FREE item! Giveaways are another way to try a new product or service. Most companies usually only want to share their business with others via word of mouth marketing and sharing posts on social media in exchange for a free item. How hard can that be? You are already hoping from Facebook, to Instagram, to Snapchat, to Twitter anyway. Might as well get yourself a free hoodie.

6. Coupons help manage food costs.

Amazon buying Whole Foods is the best thing that happened to all of us. Don’t front like trying to be trendy and shop at Whole Foods wasn’t costly. Thankfully, coupons can save on food and grocery store “memberships” can save on gas.

7. There is a coupon for almost everything.

In addition to the usually food, personal care, and paper products coupons, you can also find coupons to clothing stores, restaurants, travels and booking, and local services. There is a coupon for almost everything you want to buy. Don’t believe me?

You can save $100 on a trip to Africa.

Get cash back on your first trip with Airfordable.

8. Coupons make splurges more affordable.

If you happen to be one of those people who shop when they are feeling down, coupons make your splurges manageable. Just download the Ultimate Black Love Gift Guide and shop til you drop… or start to feel better.

9. Coupons helps you know the best deal available.

Many places sell similar items. Google “graphic tees” and the possibilities are endless. A promotional offer will make one t-shirt company stand out among the competition. They are all fighting for your money; go with the company that is offer the discount and of course, shop with the Black owned business over all others.

10. Using coupons are fun.

I do the happy dance when I save money. It was a lot of hard work coordinating with business owners to create the Ultimate Black Love Gift Guide but it was worth it. I have met some incredible business owners who have share their promotions with me and I am sharing them with you.

Buying Black... Saving Money... Heyyyyy

Using Black owned business coupons is a serious way to show #BlackLove and save money. With couponing, you can incorporate savings into almost every shopping experience. Devoting a few minutes collecting coupons before shopping is financially beneficial and statistically pays off in the long run.

I have gone a step further and made supporting Black owned business and put 70 coupons into one PDF! You still haven’t downloaded the Ultimate Black Love Gift Guide? What are you waiting for? If you enjoy using Black business coupons as much as I do, leave me a comment below.

Finances: How I Raised My Credit Score By 168 Points

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My debt repayment plan officially started again in January 2015. I vowed to get current on all my bills and start the process of eliminating my debt. So far it has been an interesting journey. Besides seeing the numbers get a little smaller each month, something else happened...

My credit score went up by 168 points in only 8 months.

That was amazing. When I checked my score last August I was in complete shock to see that much improvement. In today’s post, I want to share with you some things that I did to make it happen.

Get Current

The first thing that I did was get current on every bill that I had. It didn’t matter if it was a student loan or credit card bill; I made sure that I got up to date with each and every one of them. I also set up automatic payments for a couple of my bills. That was huge for me. I’ve never had the discipline to do that in the past, but I was focused on making this happen. 35% of your credit score is your payment history. I had to make sure that my payment history was getting better.

Stopped Using My Credit Cards

The next thing that I did was that I stopped using my credit cards. By just paying on them, my credit utilization ratio started going down. I’m not at the recommended 30% yet, but I am damn sure lower than the 90% that I was at last year at this time. With hard work, I should be under 50% by the end of the year.

Add Extra Money

I also started adding extra money to all my debts. I’m not sure how much that helped, but it was something that I had to do. I’m still amped at how much the score went up in 8 months. I’m proof that even if you have thousands of dollars of debt you can still raise your score. If you have a low credit score I want you to realize that you can raise your score too. You just need to create a plan. Remember, 65% of your credit score consists of your payment history and the amounts owed.

One tool that I use when I’m looking at my credit score is credit sesame. Credit sesame has a financial debt analysis tool that shows you your total debt. It then breaks the debt down into categories such as credit card debt, student loans, and others.

Credit Sesame also goes into detail about your credit score and credit report. They also give you several credit recommendations. Those recommendations could be credit cards that you can sign up for or personal loans that can help you pay off high-interest debt. Did I mention that credit sesame is free to use? All you have to do is sign up. If you’re interested in getting your credit score in order click here

What is the most that your credit score has gone up in a relatively short time? Do you wish your score was higher?

5 Reasons Why You Should Start A Side Hustle Now

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Having a side hustle is now ubiquitous, yet not everyone has tapped into this great idea of making extra income on the side. Everything keeps evolving in the world we live in, so one must ensure to improve daily to avoid borrowing when others are hustling their way to luxury.

Just in case you are wondering what a Side Hustle really is, according to Entrepreneur;

"A side hustle is a way to make some extra cash that allows you flexibility to pursue what you’re most interested in. It can also be your true passion – a chance to delve into fashion, travel or whatever it is you care about the most without quitting your day job."

I know you can relate to that very embarrassing moment when by the second week of the month, you have run out of cash because your salary and pocket money has already been swallowed by bills and expenses. I used to have that experience a lot back in Uni days but as soon as I got my side hustle game on I was able to get more money to meet my daily needs long after my pocket money had run out. So check this out:


1. JOB SECURITY & PRESENT ECONOMIC SITUATION: If you have become so comfortable behind your desk and you feel that’s all you would ever need, think again! There’s really no job security anywhere anymore, in the last 3 years more people have lost jobs than ever before because most organizations are either downsizing or restructuring. So you better think of that and start now! No matter how much you are earning, your take home might not really be taking you home as much as it used to before because the price of everything and anything you can think of has increased…even Garri and Palm oil. Your landlord has probably started talking about increasing the rent and the mechanic has already increased the cost of servicing. So maybe it’s time to think of a side hustle to get that extra cash in your pocket.

2. EXTRA INCOME: Just like point one states we all need extra cash, whether you are a student or an employed person it’s important to have a side hustle. If just like me, you enjoy the sound of credit alerts on a daily basis then you need to have a side hustle too. It does not have to be something that will disrupt your present job or your academics, find something that can fit into your daily schedule and fix up your weekends too. Side hustlers are always doing something, using an opportunity others don’t see to make money so why not join us today?

3. A LIFE OUTSIDE WORK: Having a job is good but when that job becomes your whole life, you might end up regretting if it gets taken from you or if you miss out on the other great aspects of life because of it. Many of us have lost opportunities to network, to follow our passion or bring our dreams to life because we were all about work. Have something that gives you joy outside work, something that you can do on your own. A place where you don’t have to follow any rules, something you do on your own terms. Find that and you would be truly happy with yourself…that’s the life I live for right now.

4. IT COULD BECOME YOUR FULL TIME JOB: If you grow your side hustle so well, it could become your full time job. My friend Olawale Animashaun the CEO of Int’l Sahar Clothing co started his business as a side hustle but today he has grown it into his full time job. He has 2 outlets in Lagos and 1 in Abuja, he also bought himself a brand new car from this side hustle turned full time job. So you see, a side hustle is capable of becoming your everyday hustle and it could make you live the life you want. I don’t know about you but I think having a 9-5 is now becoming out of style.

5. IT GIVES ROOM FOR CREATIVITY/ VERSATILITY: A side hustle gives room for creativity, it allows you think and come up with ideas that could change your life. It gives you room to be versatile, you can be a Doctor and makeup artist, You can be a lawyer and a personal shopper, You can be a banker and a blogger just like me….lol.
A side hustle allows you learn new things that you might never know if you just stay within your 9-5 job.

So are you ready to start yours now? Here’s a list of side hustles I currently do to make extra cash weekly;

  • Blogging
  • E-book Sales
  • Customized Tee-shirts and Mass Production
  • Cleaning Services; Post construction cleaning, Routine cleaning, vaccuming and organizing
  • Freelance writing/ Content development for websites and magazines I’m the content director for Int’l Sahar Clothing’s website , Editor of EVOLVE youth magazine.
  • Online coaching classes via whatsapp, podcasts and webinars
  • Public speaking


  • Buying & reselling clothes, shoes, bags and accessories
  • Starting an Online shop via Jumia, Jiji, Konga etc.
  • Making Pastries; cup cakes, chin-chin, puff-puff etc.
  • Wait & Get Passports; school and work environments
  • Computer Centre: Printer, Photocopier and Scanner…this would thrive in school or office environments
  • Sales of Hair products, weaves, attachments & accessories
  • Car wash & Barbeque
  • Child care services
  • Fruit Salad/ Smoothie sales and delivery
  • Cooking for small parties
  • Instrumentalist for churches/ Teaching kids how to play musical instruments
  • Perfume sales
  • Wristwatch sales
  • Dry cleaning
  • Drive for Uber
  • Farming
  • Make Tee-shirts and Souvenirs
  • Make-up, Hair-making, Barbing
  • Garment Alterations
  • Photography
  • Making/Sales of Body wash, liquid soaps, natural body lotions etc

You can check the Side Hustle Nation for a more exhaustive list of Side hustles you can try out.

Black Consciousness in Professional Settings

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I’m a Black man. (Big surprise, right?)

I’m a Black man in America. (Once again, you should be shocked.)

I’m a black man in America who has to go to work daily with white people who benefit from the system that oppresses me and I must smile while many of them fail to see their privilege because it just is and it just always has been and, therefore, it is taken for granted. (That is the part that may be surprising to some of you.)

Now, I don’t hate white folks. I actually had a white coworker who just went to a diversity training last week speak to me today about how much she learned at her training and how she can only imagine how difficult it must be to come to work some days. And I appreciated her saying that because, some days, it’s not easy.

I know, white folks. “Everyone hates Mondays.” “No one wants to go to work.” “Life isn’t a piece of cake for anyone.” “My grandparents are (Irish/Italian/Jewish/Insert your choice of European nationality) and they came over on a boat in 190x with one suitcase and limited knowledge of English.” I’ve heard it and I won’t invalidate the hardships of your bloodline but I will say that whatever American struggle you speak of outside of the African-American experience is incomparable.

Since the seventeenth century, there have been state-sponsored laws and codes in place to keep African-Americans in a subservient position. And, the crazy thing is, it never ever stopped.

Even today, states across the nation have laws that disenfranchise a disproportionate number of persons of African descent. The same cannot be said for any other group, not even my Muslim and my Latinx brothers and sisters who are going through a similar contemporary struggle.

Imagine coming to work every day with hopes of changing a system that, odds tell you, will never be changed.

Imagine pledging an organization focused on love for all mankind but all mankind doesn’t love you back, and, still, you pay your dues because you believe you can change a few lives.

Imagine knowing that, since this land became a formal nation, simply wanting to be black and free was an act of aggression against the system that the majority benefited from, an act punishable by imprisonment and death.

And then, don’t imagine but accept the fact that, be it consciously or subconsciously, no large number of beneficiaries of that system will ever truly be on your side.

Now, knowing all that, I still know I must operate within the rules of this institution while simultaneously doing my revolutionary part to chip away at it, piece by piece, until I can remove a brick. And, I will remove my brick with pride. My hope lies not in my own ability to cause the Wall of Injustice to fall. Rather, it lies in my hope that, as I am taking my brick of the Wall of Injustice down, another brother or sister is as well.

White America, I don’t want you to suffer out of malice but I do out of self-preservation. When the Wall of Injustice falls, it is going to be a traumatic experience for many. It is going to even the playing field, which means that you will lose your privilege. Black people who support the system (crooked cops, conservative leadership, those who subscribe to respectability politics, etc.), you too will hurt because your gifted (and regulated) privilege will be taken away. But it is needed.

We cannot have a nation that touts freedom but takes the tax dollars of those who built it and puts those dollars toward the bullet used to take the life of its funder. We cannot say “All Lives Matter” while being afraid to say “Black Lives Matter”, or, worse yet, to say that simply saying Black Lives Matter is an evil act (side note: learn to distinguish an act of evil from one of rebellion). We cannot bomb nations for poisoning their citizens when the men, women, and children in Flint, MI have been forced to live with tainted water for three years.

In short, we cannot claim to be the land of the free and the home of the brave when we have some citizens who can purchase political influence and other citizens who are forced to sit by idly and watch their lives become political bargaining chips, much like the lives of slaves in 1859.

The double-consciousness needed to survive as a black (wo)man in a professional field whilst maintaining a modicum of sanity is unbelievable and that is why, though I don’t believe that I can break down the system, I will keep fighting to inspire others to join me in its dismantling.

Oh, and I’m grateful that my coworker had the courage to step out of her comfort zone and tell me that she’s working on being more understanding and aware. I can only imagine the difficulty that comes with truly realizing that you were born into something undeserved, just as I was born into something undeserved. Same “problem”, different ends of the spectrum, I suppose. I can only look forward to the day that very wide gap is eliminated.

Millennials: 10 Things To Avoid To Be Successful

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Hey, Millennials! We are the next generation making it happen...and what do we want? We all want to be successful.

Success is this tangible, intangible thing we all want to achieve at some point in our lives. No matter what success means to you, as millennials we are pretty ambitious and driven people.

We become successful through social media and blogging or real estate and entrepreneurship, no matter how we get there, we find a way to make it happen.

That is what inspires me about this generation. There is no longer a written formula for success:

"work 'x' amount of years at a company, start at the bottom and work your way up, otherwise known as the pyramid method. "

Bleh! We scratched that and created our own formulas. Not saying people don’t achieve success this way anymore, but it’s not the only way.

On our journey to success, there are a few things we should be aware of and/or avoid to reach our goals and retain success.

10 Things Millennials Should Avoid To Be Successful

We have to remember that no matter how talented and hard we work the world does not owe us anything. The best attitude to have is humility and to always be grateful for your blessings

Once success starts to come and you begin to get multiple opportunities, avoid the “I’m the best and most deserving attitude” because once people sense that they won’t want to work with you.

I believe we should think highly of ourselves and acknowledge our hard work, but once you get to certain level everyone is working hard. No matter how successful you are, it is so important to maintain humility and keep in mind there is always more to grow.

From her book, one of Amy Morin’s 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do is “They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success.” This is crucial because when that little green envious monster sits on your shoulder it can potentially destroy relationships, your success, and your well being.

Resentment and envy are detrimental emotions that will not do you any good.

Do you resent that your childhood friend is doing better than you because she got her dream job or your friend from school got the job you wanted and you didn’t? Resenting them isn’t going to get you the job or help you get your job. It’s only going to make you angry and irrational.

Instead of envying someone else’s success we should embrace it. What’s meant for them might not be meant for you right now and that’s okay. Or sometimes we envy people because of what we see on the surface, but we have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.

When you start to feel resentment, evaluate what is going well in your life and what you can improve on.
Lock that little green monster in a box and throw away the key because he can’t help you.

“Successful people don’t fear failure, but understand that it’s necessary to learn and grow from” -Robert Kiyosaki

Let me name a few people you might know:
Oprah Winfrey
J.K. Rowling
Bill Gates
Thomas Edison
Milton Hershey
Walt Disney

Do any of those names ring a bell? (If not, take a few moments to look up their story). That is just a hand full of names because the list could go on and on. You might look at those names now, and think how can I even begin to compare to those people, but you can!

They all started from the bottom, failed miserably, but because they did not give up they managed to make something of themselves. We cannot give up the first time we fail because it is a part of the process.

The problem with our generation is that we only glorify our successes on social media and we leave out the process and the struggle. Young people get discouraged because the only thing they see online is the beautiful, polished end product, but they don’t see the hard work it took to get there.

We almost have to embrace failure because it’s how we learn. We learn what to do and what not to do, and the biggest failure isn’t failing but it’s not learning from it.

That takes me into this point, don’t keep making the same mistakes. Failure is important as a stepping stone in our learning, but you can’t keep making the same mistakes that caused you to fail in the first place.

Failure can be costly, financially and emotionally, so we want to learn from our mistakes so we don’t repeatedly find ourselves in the same place.

If something continuously doesn’t work out, then take a step back and reevaluate what is working and what is not. Chances are you can improve upon something or make a change that will help you not make the same mistake again. Instead of giving up, look at it from a different angle.

Amy Morin talks about the importance of taking “calculated risks.” Most successful entrepreneurs have taken at least one if not multiple calculated risks in their careers to get them to where they are now.

Risks are scary and dangerous if you only make them impulsively. If you immediately make a large investment without evaluating how it will help you and how long it will take you to pay it back, then you will find yourself in debt.

Instead, make a pros and cons list and weigh the benefits of this risk versus the consequences of it. You can make an educated decision as to whether the risk will better your career or endanger it.

Nonetheless, don’t play it safe! Playing it safe gets you the mediocre career and a life of “what ifs.” At the end of the road, we want to have the least amount of regrets as possible. Of course, you cannot avoid all of them, but some we have control over.

This one is probably the most obvious and self-explanatory because being lazy will get nowhere.

Unless you are born into money or marry into money, you have to earn it for yourself. You want to work hard for your success because you know you earned it and you understand the value of it. If you don’t work for it, then you might not be able to retain it because you won’t know how to work hard.

Working hard and self-motivation are some of the most admirable qualities someone can have. Once you get older, potential and mere talent are no longer enough to get you by. But if you mix hard work and talent, you’ll be unstoppable!

I’ll even push the envelope more and say, clearly you can’t be lazy but you also can’t be mediocre. You have to go above and beyond to get to the level of success of people like Bill Gates and Oprah Winfrey.

They’re not basic in any shape or form, and when they were working up the latter they worked 200% when others were satisfied with 98%.

You can’t compare your life to what someone posts on Instagram. We always think someone has it better until we get to see what’s below the surface. When you constantly compare yourself to other people, you never fully embrace what you have and that’s dangerous.

You’ll never be happy with what you have if you’re always comparing yourself. It’s okay to have some healthy competition if it motivates you to work harder or get more disciplined, but we have to realize that someone else’s life may not be what is meant for us.

Remember, “The grass is not always greener on the other side.

Think about this..why do you want to be successful?

What’s driving you? Most likely if you’re not coming from riches, something is driving you to make a change, break barriers, and become successful.

Sometimes when we are having tough times or encounter obstacles we begin to doubt ourselves and that little spark inside of us begins to dim.

I say.. absolutely not! Don’t ever let yourself sink too much into that place and deny that you deserve greatness.

When you think you’ve hit rock bottom or you can’t physically go anymore, tap into your inner power and it will reassure you that there is more to give.

You can do it. And you will do it! You are so much stronger than you think.

Are you moping around because you didn’t get that job you wanted or you haven’t been promoted yet?

Keyword…yet! The worst reaction is to feel sorry for yourself and allow your work ethic to deteriorate.

If you didn’t get something you want, hustle harder than ever. Make them see you and recognize that you deserve to be in that position.

It’s okay to be disappointed, but do not allow it to last for longer than a couple of days. Shake it off and reevaluate how you can make things better. It might be cheesy, but when there’s a will there is a way.

Nothing comes overnight; most people have to work long and hard for their success.

The process makes it worth it because you appreciate success when it comes and you can retain it when you have it.

Don’t rush your success because people on social media are already there, or don’t compare yourself to people who had a viral video and became overnight sensations. Don’t allow them to make you feel like you’re behind or you need to be showing out on the Gram because you don’t.

Learn to appreciate the process, all the highs, and lows, and trust me when success comes it will feel great.
So, millennials as we write our own paths to success, remember don’t stand in your own way!

Do any of these 10 points resonate with you? Comment below! 

Questions to Ask During Your Next Job Interview

This post is a submission via our member Shawanda. For more information on this article or for any questions, please feel free to contact her directly or visit the original article. 

This post is a submission via our member Shawanda. For more information on this article or for any questions, please feel free to contact her directly or visit the original article

Interviews can be very difficult for everyone. You are excited for making it to the interview stage and then again you are nervous because you want to make a good impression. I haven’t done an interview in a couple months year, but I’m always looking at HR topics (because I’m in HR…duh) to getting a better understanding of what people are asking during the interview stage. As of right now I’m not working directly with recruiting – but it doesn’t hurt to keep your mind fresh and ready to go for that big opportunity.

The interview process is really about the company getting to know you, but you also want to make sure that the company will be a good fit for you. You do not want to start working for a company and they don’t match to your expectation, especially since you are going to dedicate to the company for the next few years.

Prior to doing any interview weather it is part-time, internship or full-time you want to make sure you research the company. It is important to come into the interview knowing something about the company.

These are a few interview questions that you write down and ask at the end of your interview. Whatever you do at your next interview don’t let these questions/topics go unanswered.

Your Role – You want to make sure you have a good understanding of what you are going to be doing.
1. Can you offer specific details about the position’s day-to-day responsibilities?
2. How does this position contribute to the organization’s success?
3. What do you hope I will accomplish in this position?

Know the Interviewer – This person could potentially be your new boss and you want to make sure you at least have an idea of what type of person they are.
1.What do you enjoy most about working here?
2. What is your greatest accomplishment with the company?

Management Style – some people need a manger that is hands on where as others don’t need that much attention.
1.How do leaders set employee up for success?
2. How do leaders encourage employees to ask questions?
3.How does management deliver negative feedback to employees?

Company Culture – you want to pay attention to understand if the company’s benefits and culture align with you and your personality and also your expectation.
1.How would you describe the work environment?
2.What benefits and perks does the company offer?
3.What benefits are focused on work-life balance?

Company Reputation – you should know a couple things about the company from the research that you did prior to the interview, these questions help dig a little deeper.
1.Why do most employees leave the company?
2.How would employees describe the company and its leaders?
3. What are the company’s biggest problems? How are they overcoming them?

Performance Measurements –  you want to know the company’s expectations and how they measure goals to understand if this will help motivate you.
1.How are employees recognized for their hard work?
2.How often do you or the company evaluate employee performance?
3.How involved are employees in the structuring of their goals and tasks?

Future Co-Workers – make sure you have a lot of positive people around you that have the same mind set that you have.
1.How do you develop teamwork skill among employees?
2.How competitive are your employees?

Opportunities for Growth  – you want to be setting yourself up for growth in this position.
1. What advance opportunities are available?
2. What type of education/training opportunities are available?
3.Does the company offer a mentor program for new hires?

Next Steps – Concluding the Interview –  you want to know what to expect and that you both are on the same page.
1.What’s the next step of this process, and when can I expect to hear from you?
2.Is there any other information I can provide you with?

This is what that time is for – no matter how nervous you are muster up the courage to ask questions to set yourself up for success and even stand out from others. Please share any other questions that you might ask.

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