I have a tendency to be really hard on myself. Maybe it’s a woman thing. Maybe it’s a person thing, but I tend to be my worst critics, and I know I’m not the only one out there. Usually, it’s in the spirit of wanting to be better. sometimes our desire for perfection can take a negative turn. And in walks the negative self-talk.
On a daily basis, I find myself verbally and emotionally abusing myself for no good reason. I call this emotional and verbal abuse because that’s what it would be called if we dare allowed anyone to say those same things to us. How many times have you said, “How could I be so stupid” or “I never get anything right.” Now think about those words coming out of someone else’s mouth. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for the way others treat you.
Words have power. In the 90s, Japanese scientist Masaru Emoto conducted an experiment that really illustrates the power of positive and negative words.
He poured pure water into vials labeled with negative phrases like “I hate you” or “fear.” After 24 hours, the water was frozen, and no longer crystallized under the microscope: It yielded gray, misshapen clumps instead of beautiful lace-like crystals. In contrast, Emoto placed labels that said things like “I Love You,” or “Peace” on vials of polluted water, and after 24 hours, they produced gleaming, perfectly hexagonal crystals. (from “The Scary Power of Negative Words”)
The bible itself says in Proverbs 23:7, “For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he…” The things that you say and believe about yourself have a tremendous effect on the person you become. So let’s practice saying and thinking empowering thoughts about ourselves.
Here are 25 compliments to replace the negative self talk.